Becoming a parent is a funny thing.
It changes you in ways you never even thought possible. I'd go so far as to say it totally plays with your sense of identity. People often split their life down the middle, talking about pre-parenthood and post. Life 'before' almost becomes the stuff of legend: lie-ins, leisure time, spontaneity, travel, sex, disposable income and, for most, going out and partying. Life after becomes consumed, rightly, with the care of a small human that looks to you as it's life line and provider of all things from unconditional love to nurture and protection, all of which requires limitless energy and patience. The problem is memory is selective, so you tend to glorify the good ol' days which never does any one any favours.
Just because you've become a PARENT it doesn't mean you stop craving the fun and freedom the previous chapter allowed you (who wants to be a sensible grown-up all the time?). In fact I would say you need that fun even more now to top up your tank so you can be the best version of youself for your offspring rather than frazzled and snappy. There's also the very real fact that that fun, most the time, needs to shaped into something that doesn't leave you hanging out your arse the next day, struggling to deal with a ball of limitless energy from 6am or 5am if your kids like mine. I guess the big question for me is: How do you marry these two selves into something that fits your new life?
As a new(ish) mum, I am just starting to understand who I am now and this will no doubt change as the years roll on. As a Hip-Hop loving, crepe wearing, hoodie sporting thirty-something I'm not inclined to go and rave it up with a bunch of young kids just starting out on their journey. Who wants to be that old(er) chick, trying to find common ground, bending people's ears about golden era bangers they must listen to as a 'rights of passage' or telling anyone that'll listen that I've interviewed Souls of Mischief and once DJ'd at the o2 on the same bill as Blackstreet or that I regularly took great joy in hunting down rare wax, spending a small fortune on UK Hip Hop 12s? Not me! That said, I'm also not ready to start rocking Crocs, mumbling about the 'good ol' days' whilst up to my eyeballs in laundry, trying to convince my kid to eat whilst distracting him with Peppa Pig vids on YouTube.
Fact is my life now is awesome and I wouldn't change it but we all need to let our hair down once in a while and being able to do so with your kid(s) in tow is a really fun way to share the love! But where does this leave me? Well if your kid is going through a sleep regression leaving you bone tired and climbing into bed at 9pm to survive, you don't have limitless £££ for childcare and your man works nights, this just leaves you with daytimes! Cue Fun DMC. Set up by my fella Spin Doctor (The Doctor's Orders) and Charlie Dark (Daddy Dark RDC) both Hip-Hop vets and dads, they've come up with something that was clearly missing from the market - a daytime Hip-Hop party designed with both parents and children in mind.
Now this post isn't designed to be a long, drawn out push for the party, nor am I trying to shoe horn it in - in fact it wasn't even the post I set out to write but such is the nature of this bloggin' malarkey. But having taken Archie on Sunday what I was struck by the most was the pure joy on the parent's faces. They were able to share a love for something really key to their sense of (pre parenthood) identity with their kids and the kids were loving it too, making for an all round win/win situation! I myself was able to have a dance, listen to some bangers I love, watch Archie have a ball and bond with peers united in the shared experience of being 'relevant' again whilst occasionally chatting about the everyday roller-coaster of parenthood. There were also some stellar cameos from legends like DJ Mr Thing (see below) who, long before I even met him, was a massive influence on me musically and is always down with the kids.
Now I appreciate the bias here but until my kid starts sleeping through the night again and I can find a hip hop night that caters to my mid thirties self, Fun DMC has let me marry a bit of my old self with some of my new. It's also hugely comforting to know I'm not alone in sporting hoodies and crepes as a mama!
More info on Fun DMC can be found here: